It's been a minute, y'all, but I felt the need to vent. A couple of posts ago, I announced that I was embarking on a journey of celibacy, and I am proud to say that I have stayed true to my convictions (silent applause). So far I have resisted any temptation to go against the vow I made to God and myself; though it hasn't been EASY, I am beginning to realize that this decision is for the betterment of my relationship with myself as well as my relationships with others. Speaking of relationships...is it just me or does it seem like everybody and their mama done found love in a hopeless place? On my Snapchat the other day, I joked that the summer love bug has bit everyone but somehow managed to miss my a**; while this came from a place of jest, it also shined a light on how uncomfortable I have a tendency to get with the idea of being looked over by love once again. My feelings toward love and relationships go up and down throughout the day. One minute, I proclaim to be happily single and patiently waiting for the one God has set aside for me, then getting sap and teary-eyed wondering why it's taking so long the next. I can bear witness that it is not wise to rush a treasure such as love, but everyone gets lonely at times. My loneliness stems from a place of feeling like my quirks, intellect, and sassy wit are difficult to hand off to just any body, or that my precocious manner can be intimidating among a generation of Netflix and Chillers. I've made it clear to a few people I'm interested in that I'm not here to entertain your flesh, but rather appeal to what matters: his heart, his soul, his convictions, his mind, you know, things of substance. Substance, you know, the word that is passed around in conversation yet no one seems to want to put in the WORK to attain it. If you've read this far into this post, you're probably wondering why a 20-year-old is even worried about finding the love of her life at such a tender age. It's not so much about finding the "love of my life", but more so about not wasting my time with meaningless flings that only lead to soul ties. I can admit this though: celibacy has shown me that it is OH SO imperative to get to know someone you're digging before allowing them into your "yoniverse" , let alone even get a sneak peek of your goodies. Another thing celibacy has revealed to me is that, well, it may be a GREAT idea to meet someone who is also taking the journey of holding sex off until marriage. It's kind of counterproductive to be spitting that celibacy realness to someone who's enticing you with sweet nothings, honestly. So, what is a hopeless and celibate romantic to do? Funny thing is, the answer revealed itself to me as I was typing my feelings out: Stop comparing your current situation to someone else's. You don't know what roads they had to take, what lessons they had to learn, or the amount of people they had to love and let go of before meeting their One. I know it's easier said then done, but what's the point of moping around over the temporary absence of a boyfriend when I could be loving on myself (like I been doing) and showering my close friends and family with love that is not only unconditional but also reciprocal? You know whose love is just as, shoot, even MORE unconditional and reciprocal? God's love. His love is and will be greater than any other love or relationship that I'll experience on this Earth, and I hope to keep that in mind any time I feel otherwise. And you as well. Know that you've got a Creator whose love can't be matched with anything earthly, and that the one He has set aside for you will hold that same power within him/her because they sought Him first before even approaching you. Blessings to you and yours, Black Honeycomb
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If you were to do a Google search of the word "value", you'll find denotative meanings such as "the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something" or "relating to a person's principles or what's important in life". The one that stood out to me the most is "to consider (someone or something) to be important or beneficial, having a high opinion of them". Now, let's examine that last statement for a bit, meditating on the subtext between the lines. Take that last definition of value and apply it on a personal level: do you consider yourself important? beneficial? do you hold a high (but humble) opinion of yourself? If you have answered "No" to any of the questions listed above, allow me to share a message that has been bestowed upon my heart:
Know that you are a diamond in the rough among pebbles in the concrete, constantly facing pressure because you're being called to do more than being sedentary, constantly facing pressure because you are worthy of all the blessings God has in store for you, constantly facing pressure because of the anointing He has placed on your life, and constantly facing pressure because you're being pruned for greatness. So, even if you don't see the value of all that you have done, be assured that the dedication you've put in is priceless. As always, have a wonderful weekend! Many blessings, Black Honeycomb Per: Psalm 139:14- "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Matthew 10:31- "Fear not, therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows." "Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth."- Anonymous *Note: This post is not intended to offend nor single out anyone. Before you proceed with reading, I advise you to have an open mind and feel free to share your thoughts. This is a judgement-free zone. There comes a time in life when you have to literally check yourself before you wreck yourself. It could involve cutting back on your long nights out, cutting back on your alcohol intake, or cutting out meaningless flings and hookups. Lately, the latter part of that list is where I'm standing; casual flings aren't doing it for me anymore. Don't get me wrong, casual flings are fun and exciting when you aren't in search of anything too "heavy", but at the end of it all, it's a complete waste of time (at least is for me). I'm aware that in today's culture the social norm appears to be "hooking up" or "Netflix and Chillin'", which is fine for those of you who, once again, aren't in search of anything too constricting. I am also aware that some millennials may feel that monogamous relationships aren't something to experience early on in your 20's, rather having freedom to explore what it is that they like and dislike when it comes to sex. On the other-hand, I am quite frankly tired of it. This may sound weird coming from someone who's only 20-years-old, but let me be transparent with you for a bit. I honestly wish I would have held on to my "piece" for a little while longer. I wish that I would have listened to those little love notes from friends who had already had sex, the "Wait until you're married" or "Wait until you can experience it with someone meaningful" speeches. Perhaps I should have listened to my intuition before it even went down, the little angel on my shoulder whispering, "Be patient. Wait a little while longer". But, there's no sense in regretting the past, especially since there's a beautiful future ahead of me. So, that is why I am deciding to be celibate. I am aiming to wait until I am in a serious relationship that leads to marriage, or better yet, until I'm married. I already know that this decision will be faced with a lot of opposition and temptation, but through prayer and devotionals, I plan to make it through. I also plan on telling the men I meet along this journey what the deal is, and that they are welcomed to stay if they truly understand my choice, as well as being free to go if they don't. As always, have a wonderful rest of the week, and be sure to tune in to my next post! Have a blessed one, Loves! Love, Black Honeycomb "Our willingness to wait reveals the value we place on the object we are waiting for."- Charles Stanley Artist Unknown Well hello there, did you miss me?
So, it's been a little over a month since the last time I have posted anything up here and honestly, I need a spanking for not being on top of my blog game. Life has been pretty crazy, sexy, cool within this month, and I've decided to share what's been going on with me. First things first, my trip to North Carolina & Atlanta! Back in May, I went on a 3-day educational trip to visit some universities (North Carolina A&T, Clark-Atlanta, and Georgia Tech) as well as some attractions within the surrounding areas (International Civil Rights Museum in Greensboro, NC., CNN, Martin Luther King, Jr. National Historic Site, etc). To sum up my overall experience, it was mentally stimulating, aesthetically pleasing, and highly emotional. The emotions ran high when we were walking through the ICRM exhibits, especially the "Cash Crop" exhibit by Stephen Hayes (see images below). If you are interested in checking it out, it will be on display until mid-to-late August. Another highlight from my trip was the CNN Tour, which featured a behind-the-scenes look of the world of broadcast journalism (which is right up my alley). I was like a kid in the candy store: "ooo-ing" and "aww-ing" at every station we stopped at, high off of the thrill of my dreams being displayed before me (see images below). If you happen to be a student, tours are typically $15, so save up for the actual trip to ATL if you can. As for regular-degular-schmegular life, things are going smoothly. Summer courses began on May 23rd, and I'll be busy as a bee up until August 2nd, at least academic wise. As far as my social life, well, that honestly has been put to the backburner. It's crazy when you get that sudden realization that you're working more than you're actually playing, which I've decided to get on top of before I become overwhelmed. I'm looking to balance out these summer classes with summer festivals, concerts, beach days, and MORE traveling, so if you guys have any suggestions of activities going on within the DMV (or out of it), please feel free to let me know. As always, enjoy your weekend! With love, Black Honeycomb PS: The "What's Your Name, What's Your Sign" series is in the works. I am still taking inquiries for people who want to be featured, so hit me up! Mercury, Retrograde what's good?! Yes loves, Mercury Retrograde has reared its ugly head back around again, starting today, October 31st, then ending on November 20th. If you've been feeling like things are going in a bizarre direction, this may be the reason why. So, what is Mercury Retrograde you may ask? Well, to put it simply, the planet Mercury "stops" its orbit just to begin orbiting again but in a backwards motion. Astrologically, Mercury is known as the planet that governs our communication and cognition, so imagine what happens once it begins to move in reverse. That's right, crazy sh*t! People are often forewarned to not begin anything new, whether that be jobs, relationships, etc, because during this time period things aren't always as they appear to be. Instead, they are encouraged to do things beginning with "re": "reconnect", "revisit", "reconsider", "renew". They are encouraged to finish up a task that may have been put to the side, or even heal from wounds left from lovers long ago. All in all, retrogrades aren't necessarily a terrible thing, just nerve-wracking when it comes to any form of communication. Here are a few tips:
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Oh hey there, did you miss me? Yes it has been quite a while since I last posted ANYTHING in the Honeycomb, and honestly, life is the blame for that. If you have been keeping up with these particular posts, then you are aware of the disclaimer about finals coming up and all that junk; lo and behold, this is finals week! So instead of just jumping ahead to the day that I should really be on, I'm going to take on the tasks that were listed for Days 9, 10, and 11 for the challenge (and yes I did intentionally omit Day 8). DAY 9: Piercings and Tattoos I had piercings, but as for tattoos, no. I got the top part of my navel done when I turned 18 then later on, the bottom half. It was just recently when I had to remove BOTH due to complications; the scars left behind aren't exactly beautiful either. DAY 10: 1st Celebrity Crush Hmmm...that's a hard one, but I'll have to choose between Li'l Fizz from the early 2000's boy band B2K or cornrows-with-shells-hanging, over-sized jersey wearing early 2000's Li'l Bow Wow, presently known as "Shad Moss". DAY 11: Most Proud Moment The moment that I was the most proud of myself would have to be the day I graduated high school with honors, which was almost two years ago. I'm not one to brag, so this task was a bit of a challenge to me. Annnd that's it! I'll do my best to continue on AND finish the rest of the challenges for each day! If you are wondering what happened to the #TuneInThursdays and #SultrySundays series, don't fret--they will be back in effect very soon! Enjoy the rest of your week and Happy Cinco De Mayo! Love, BH Good evening everyone, and welcome to another week! If you have been keeping up with the 31 Day Blogging Challenge here in The Honeycomb Suite and wondering what happened to the posts for each day, I can explain: life happened. So, I decided to combine each day's task into one post. To start, I'll be sharing my guilty pleasure(Day 5)...dancing shamelessly to the music of the Ratchets. Yes, I am that girl who attempts to make sense of what Future is saying in his songs while commuting to school/work. Yes, I am that girl who attempts to twerk whenever I hear that infamous chime "Mike Will Made It" . Oh and yes, I am that girl that gets way too hype when I hear Juvenile's call for ratchet behavior: "Cash Money Records takin' over for the '99 and 2000!" The following above brings me to discuss my three personality traits that I am proud of, which happens to be the task for Day 6.
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Day 4, Day 4, Day 4! Today's task for the 31 Day Blog Challenge is to share a childhood memory with you all and to be honest, this is a tough one. I had an interesting childhood with tons of embarrassing shit that occurred, but I guess I'll narrow it down to when I began puberty (sigh).
Puberty happened to me around the tender age of 7 years old, which means I began that awkward process earlier than most girls within my age range. In fact, my so-called peers used this as ammo to bully me, calling me "Rocky Road" due to the sudden and unwanted appearance of acne on my once blemish-free, prepubescent face. That was just the beginning; once those things called breasts started to develop, I realized just how fast my life was about to change. For one thing, I had to start wearing "training bras", which to me was pretty pointless being that my boobs were mosquito bites until the age of 9. Then, around the age of 9...well, let's just say I had one of the members of the Womanhood committee welcome me with open arms (again, SIGH). And that, my lovely readers, is one of my most memorable moments from childhood--the slow emergence into becoming a woman. Be sure to check out my next blogging challenge post! Love, BH Hey guys! Back at it again for the 31 Day Blog Challenge, and today's task is to inform you all on the meaning behind my "business" name. Although I don't refer to my blog as a business, the story behind the name "The Honeycomb Suite" is quite short. First things first, I self-proclaimed my pen name to be Black Honeycomb: black standing for, well, my pride in being a Black woman and honeycomb standing for my desire to bring soul-stirring and soul-soothing content for the masses. Mix that in with a dash of wit and sass and what do you get? The Honeycomb Suite!
Annnd that's about it, no heartfelt story of humble beginnings, just straight-talk with no chaser! Be sure to check out my next post for the challenge, along with previous ones as well! Love, BH Hi guys! Today's task for Day 2 of the 31 Day Blogging Challenge includes listing 20 facts about myself, which seems a bit redundant being that I've already done the "Introduction" but, I'll try to make it as interesting as I can. Here goes nothing:
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