Hey guys! It’s me! Your girl Rhoda back with a little bit of my thoughts on what you can do to make your relationship work. Now, don't get me wrong, there are some relationships that have been broken, are toxic and both parties need to leave ASAP. I’m actually talking about relationships that may have become a little dull or you’ve lost touch with each other a bit. There are things that you and your partner can contribute to the situation to aide in reconnecting and growth. When you and your partner have lost touch with each other and the relationship but still love each other, what greater feeling is there than realizing that it’s not over and that whatever is happening is fixable? It’s an amazing feeling and i’m going to list a few things that you can do to help the situation along okay? Read below. 1) This one, I’ve seen a million times in any conversation that has anything to do with relationships BUT!!! GO ON DATES!!!!! Do you hear me in the back there? It doesn't matter how long you’ve been together, date nights matter. That’s a time where you can go somewhere and have fun, create memories and get to know each other all over again. 2) Okay, this is something that is often emphasized as well so here goes.... COMMUNICATE!!!! Communicate and do it often! You cannot read minds and i doubt your partner can either (if they can have them send me an email, i have questions). Set aside at least 15 minutes each day to just converse with each other about life, how your day was or if there’s anything seriously on your mind. 3) LOTS AND LOTS OF KISSING IS NECESSARY! I get it, a lot of people aren’t big on kisses. Even little forehead kisses, a peck on the shoulder, any gentle touch of the lips would do. Who would turn down a boost in the Oxytocin (also known as the love hormone)? Kiss kiss kiss!! 4) FORGIVE! Remember your partner isn’t perfect so the both of you will have to CHOOSE to forgive. Forgiveness isn’t a feeling, it’s a choice and as long as the offence isn't too crazy (eg cheating that requires extra work to heal) then it’s a good habit to form in the relationship. Remember, forgiveness is more so for you than your partner and if you don’t want to spend your days being bitter and filled with resentment, then forgiveness (along with communication) will help you right along. 5) APOLOGIZE! Guys (as in guys and gals), create a trusting environment by taking responsibility for YOUR ROLE for the pain you caused. You make a mistake, own up to it and apologize. Being right or having the last say or even pride shouldn’t cost you your relationship. 6) HAPPY MEDIUM! That’s just a cute way to say to find a win-win solution. Find a medium that works for the both of you rather than fighting about who’s wrong and who’s right. 7) STOP ASSUMING! Do not assume you already know your partner’s thoughts or response whether it be words or actions. Focusing on positive qualities and always assuming the best (if you must assume at all) will ensure you and your partner a pathway to being a happy couple. 8) Finally... CHOOSE LOVE! Always choose love. Loving someone is a choice. That’s something you make your mind up to do. No matter if resentment, disappointment and other feelings come and go, love will always be there because you chose to love your partner. CHOOSE to do something that will draw you and your partner closer together daily. Find new ways to show you love him/her by being intentional with showing small acts of care and kindness. There you have it guys. Just a few things you can do to make your relationship work. There is nothing wrong with revisiting the past and revising things that you did before that worked. You can go back to basics and fall in love all over again. People think a happily ever after is a fairy tale, but it’s actually a choice once you work toward it. Follow me on all my social media: IG: https://www.instagram.com/empressrhose/ Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/Rhodaspage/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/empressrhose Blog: http://www.twentyfive2life.com/ _ _ _ About our Guest Contributor: My name is Rhoda Nedd. I'm no huge social media personality, nor do I have a million degrees and certifications (I do have a couple, not a million though lol). I'm just a plain 26 year old mom, blogger and open Pinterest addict. I enjoy writing in a way that can connect me to readers as if I'm talking to them face to face where I can say "ya'll" or "ain't". I use my blogging platform to say what's on my mind and let people know they're not alone in anything they go through or think about. I talk about relationships, beauty, recipes and cooking, natural hair and mommy stuff on my blog. One of my main goals is to give others a place to go for uplifting and positive vibes and a laugh here and there too. There's something for everyone on my blog. ALL are welcome!
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